Have you made a mistake that changed your life?
The definition of mistake is; - an action or judgement that is misguided or wrong; -something, especially a word, figure, or fact, which is not correct; an inaccuracy. Mistakes happen all the time in life. Some mistakes are easily forgiven and other mistakes follow us like a scarlet letter "A."
Even though mistakes are made regularly, it doesn't mean that we shouldn't try to elimate them from our day to day lives. Most people have an innate sense to try to become better versions of themselves. They strive to be better in general and strive to succeed in this world. The world sets different parameters for success, which usually include: excelling in a career, becoming more physically fit, having a big group of friends, having an attractive partner, and gaining a hardy flow of wealth and materialism. None of these worldly achievements are measured by God or predict whether we will be welcomed into God’s eternal kingdom.
If you have ever been under attach by anyone, what happens? First off, your blood pressure rises and your innate senses kick in of fight or flight. This is a time when word choice can become strained and a mispoken word or statement can easily happen. Another scenario where word choice can be compromised is after consuming alchohol. Mistakes with word choice happen to each and every one of us. The next day after consuming alcohol, especially when I was younger, I would recall conversations or things I had said the night before, and I would be filled with regret.
Other mistakes which occur in this life can include a lapse in moral judgement. However, in this day and age, I do not hear a whole lot of emphasis on morals being discussed. Temptation, curiosity, or desire impact our decisions and result in mistakes occurring that can be life changing. A mistake of this nature can result in the conception of a life.
My Mom was actually the result of such a mistake. My grandmother was a religious woman that I can recall from our times that we spent with her throughout my life. She represented so much goodness. She was one of the kindest women that I have ever known. She chose to give life to my Mom, which in turn gave life to me, and both my brothers and all of our children.
In the same regard, my husband is what was referred to as a "mistake" or a "whoopsie- daisy." My Mother- in- law was also an incredible woman, who gave of herself selflessly throughout her entire life. Thankfully she also gave life to my husband, one of my greatest joys and gifts in my life.
The only difference here is that both of these women, who had been raised with morals front and center, both made a life changing mistake. It not only changed both of their lives, the mistakes became great blessing of joy, love and happiness to so many others. And both mistakes produced a network of love, hope and joy that has continued to the current generation.
In both of my Grandmother and Mother-in- laws lives, their mistake were not easily reversed. The solution was not available to them to remove the life that was conceived. I do not believe that either of them would have chosen this way even if it had been available to them. As I said, both of them were women of strong moral conviction.
Aside from these examples, a woman who is pregnant out of wedlock these days is no longer shunned or looked upon as a disgrace to the family. This is a choice that is made by the family to choose love over the concern of whether others are judging them or talking about them. I have also had friends who have opened up to me about having made the decision to end a life after a mistake they had made. Some of these women were missing a piece of their hearts and were carrying this pain with them everyday.
It is unfortunate that individuals continue to judge others for their mistakes. It is not our place or job to judge others. However, adults have a job to educate the youth. Morals should continue to be discussed. Along with the results of carrying around guilt and emotional pain that comes from ending a life. If kids are not being taught at home, it should be taught in school or church.
Aside from this commonly discussed mistake, all mistakes can follow us through life. Every single person makes mistakes. Some are just more advertised, especially those in the public eye. Family members or close friend groups can also have someone who will lay out judgement on another person who is in the group. Mistakes that others make, should not be judged. Judgement is divisive.
Matthew 7: 1- 3
“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye”
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